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Nietzsche on Friendship

 

I guess that one of my hopes for our community here is that it would be a community of good friends. That is one reason I have been so frustrated by what I have seen as a culture of harm and abuse. It has appeared to me that most of the people who have been capable of good friendship have been driven from our homeland. Marriage and intimate relationships could also be thought of as a long term friendship.
 
I understand that Friedrich Nietzsche, a lover of wisdom, gave careful thought to what friendship is. He spoke of different levels of friendship;
·         The friendship of use. We might need a partner to play tennis with or talk about integral theory with so we make a friend to use for this end. I think that such a thing is not necessarily wrong but partial.
·         The friendship of enjoyment. There are some people who we just take enjoyment from being in their presence. I think this is a beautiful form of friendship as long as the enjoyment does not come at the expense of harming others. Some philosophers see some of humor and laughter as an outgrowth of the grimacing and victory sounds a caveman would make over the dead body of the enemy he has killed. This is not the kind of enjoyment I am referring to.
·         The highest form of friendship is one of mutual inspiration. When these kinds of friends are in each other’s presence over time they are both naturally inspired to become better persons. I am not talking about people telling each other what to do. When we see someone living in a better, and more good and beautiful way we are just naturally inspired to want to learn from them.
 
I think that is would be most wonderful for more of us to share how we are living in good and beautiful ways in order to be inspirations to each other. It would also be most wonderful if these people were not criticized in any way for sharing their selves with us even if we did not yet understand their outlooks and ways of life. When we criticize people, even if we think we are justified, we tend to shut them down or drive them away.
 
I would like to thank Layman Pascal for sharing in a very inspirational manner in this post   http://integrallife.com/member/jane-mcgillivray/blog/vivo-integral?show=all       . I would like to share some of my reflections from his comments on this post. Layman seems to be a fine and humble young man. Layman, if I offend you in any way for expressing my gratitude for and possible misunderstanding of you words, please let me know and I will delete my words. 
 
·         He does not seem to have a great deal of greed for wealth and material objects so he need not be always enslaved in working long hours at a job he might not enjoy. Therefore, he has some freedom to live as he chooses.
·         He takes good care of his body/mind by eating healthy food and exercising.
·         He reads good books like those of Nietzsche.
·         He practices meditation.
·         The fruits of his practice are a feeling of intimacy and connection with nature and his fellow humans.
·         He expresses his service in simple ways like being a good friend and cooking a meal for a friend.  
 
Thanks Layman. You are a true inspiration to me. Who else could be courageous and generous enough to share some inspiring qualities of their life?  
 
Work Cited
The Will to Power II (Tape Course) Robert Solomon PhD.
 
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Friends are blessings.

One of my goals is to learn how to be a better friend.  Friends are blessing.

 

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I was wondering,

Stanley,

Who are you?  What do you do?  How do you live? What do you eat?  How do you get around?  What is your practice?  How did you come to this place?  

Jane

 The fabric of my life is the cloth with which it is my task to polish the lens of my own perception.

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For Your AQAL Enjoyment.... Friends

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amor fati

Socrates, who -- like Nietzsche -- was deeply concerned about mutually inspiring friendship, has heard the handsome Alcibiades is the most balanced & temperate youth in all of Athens.  All of his friends say so.  Socrates asks him about this directly.  Alcibiades says, "What can I tell you, Socrates?  To agree would disturb my humility, but to disagree would make liars out of my friends.  There is no way for me to reply."

Whereupon Socrates praises him for giving such a fine answer.

So when you call me a "a fine and humble young man" what can I say?  I shall try to bear it with grace and a minimum of self-inflation.  Thank your for your kinds words & this is indeed a most worthy topic of discussion.

What is the higher friendship?  The "integral" friendship?

It seems that providing humanizing details does enable us to make inner maps of each other which further our capacity for empathy and subtle resonance -- laying down the pipelines for mutually nourishing & mutually refining exchange.

 

Thanks, I've been...

Layman Pascal

 

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You Are Living In Your Head

Unfortunately for us, it is the wrong 'head' you choose to inhabit.

Get real.

Tanya